Honesty, Ownership and Grieving Together: Helping Betrayed Partners & Addicts Talk About Sex After Betrayal Using Early Couples Recovery Empathy Model (ERCEM)
Sheri Denham, Ph.D. CSAT, CPTT-S, CCBRT, CCES, CCPS
One of the most challenging steps for couples is what to do with sex after betrayal. While the knowledge of the sexual acts is devastating, research shows how lies, gaslighting, and chronic breaches of trust commonly complicate a couple’s ability to risk and reengage sexually. Without a clear plan couples split, stay angry, engage in obligatory sex, remain stuck, or become disconnected roommates. Using the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), Dr. Sheri will demonstrate how empathy, ownership and truth-telling can help couples listen with their hearts and grieve losses, while taking steps toward posttraumatic growth.
Professional Learning Objectives:
Discuss common roadblocks of healing from betrayal trauma and how three key components honest with self and others, sincere ownership, and respectful grieving over the harm are “must haves” for a couple to heal well.
Identify the three-step process of ERCEM which create robust steps of co-occurring change including empathy, safety, containment, validation and grief; thereby rebuilding relational integrity while taking active steps toward posttraumatic growth.
Learn how disenfranchised grief needs to be processed by the betrayed partner and how early intervention provides stabilization to the couple and a clear path of restoration to both individuals.
About: Dr. Sheri Denham is a cohost of the nationally syndicated radio talk show New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million listeners. For over twenty-five years, she’s worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy. As a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Couples Betrayal Recovery Therapist (CCBRT), Certified Clinical ERCEM Specialist (CCES), and a Consultant in EMDR, she brings new tools and a fresh look at what partner’s need not only to heal but to heal well. Dr. Sheri’s a keynote speaker and recipient of 2019 IITAP Outstanding Publication Award for her book Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal. She is also the Founder of BraveOne.com, the International BraveOne Community braveone.com/community, and Bravery After Betrayal: It Takes Fierce Strength Intensive. Dr. Sheri also holds a Master’s in Theology from Fuller Theological Seminary.
Hours: M-F 8:30 am-5 pm (Central Time)
Telephone: (920) 389-1871
Email: [email protected]
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Hours: M-F 8:30 am-5 pm (Central Time)
Telephone: (920) 389-1871
Email: [email protected]
Thanks to QuestionPro for providing us free survey templates for running multiple types of surveys, helping to strengthen our nonprofit family.